Four kinds defend old and feeble food
08:25,23 grudzień 2009
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Four kinds defend old and feeble food Four kinds that everybody needs defend old and feeble food
In recent years, scientist through study, explore, put out some food, take several kinds of the following food every day, can build up health, slow aging.
Mushroom
The mushroom is nutritious, improve immunity, reduce weight, there are abundant nutrient components such as a large number of inorganic qualities, vitamins, proteins,etc. in the mushroom, but heat is very low, often eating will not get fat either. And the cellulose of the plant that the mushroom is high in, can prevent constipation, reduce the cholesterol content in the blood.
Vitamin C in the mushroom is a lot higher than the general fruit, can promote the metabolism of the human body.
Teach you that several kinds of methods distinguish the poisonous mushroom:
1.Contrast the law: Through being suitable for the colored mushroom atlas that the locality used, it is a very good method to recognize the local edible fungus or malicious mushroom one by one.
2.See the form: Poisonous mushroom stick slippery relatively generally, fungus cover, dip in some incidental or grow some look like patch spot lump of form often. Often there is a fungus ring on the stem (as wearing miniskirts) . The nonpoisonous mushroom seldom has a fungus ring.
3.Watch the color: Poisonous mushrooms are golden yellow, pink, white, black, green. Nonpoisonous mushrooms are mostly coffee, lilac or gray and red.
4.Hear the smell: The poisonous mushroom has potatoes or turnip bad smell. The nonpoisonous mushroom is a bitter apricot or fruit bad smell.
5.See the secretion: Tear and break the fungus pole the fresh wild mushroom plucked, the nonpoisonous secretion is clear like water, it is specific of course, tear and break and does not change color the fungus; The poisonous secretion is thick and dense, russet, it is apt to change color to tear and bring up the rear in the air.
If not sure that confirms mushrooms are nonpoisonous, must not eat, if eat the poisonous mushroom by mistake carelessly, should take, urge, spit, wash stomach, lead, rush down effective measure go on, punish in time, and send to hospital and make a diagnosis and give treatment in time.
Spinach
Take spinach anaemia, physique strong, skin fine arranging malicious protecting eyesight, setting the mind at rest, can far away from iron deficiency anemia.
It is very important that the folic acid in the spinach aims at mother, the supplementary and sufficient folic acid during pregnant, not only can avoid catching the baby with the development defect out, can also lower the probability that the new born baby suffer from diseases such as leukemia, congenital heart disease,etc..
Tomato
The tomato gives protection against cancer, gives you good appetite, is full of vitality, whiten.
Eat tomatoes and pay attention to six taboos:
(1)Should not eat with the cucumber at the same time.
(2)It is plain and unsuitable to eat to take Heparin, a pair of fragrant beans while resisting the blood coagulation medicine.
(3)It is unsuitable to eat at the time of the empty stomach.
(4)It is unsuitable to eat the tomato not ripe.
(5)Should not heat and cook, eat for a long time.
(6)The taboo is eaten when he is quick to take neostigmine or add blue.
The tomato includes a large amount of vitamin C, contain 20-30 milligrams of vitamin C of every 100 grams of tomatoes. Vitamin C has function of strengthening organism resistance, preventing and curing scurvy, resisting and is infected with etc..
And contain vitamin C of volume and decompose enzyme in the cucumber, it can make vitamin C in the tomato destroyed to eat them at the same time.
Chocolate
Happy - -Chocolate has calm function, its taste and mouthfeel still can stimulate the happy centre in the brains of people, make people happy.
Protect the tooth - -The forming that the taking off ores result is the decayed tooth, and chocolate can delay the pace of this course.
It is beneficial and cardiovascular to often eat chocolates - -Many phenol in chocolate has obvious oxidation of resisting, it can lengthen other antioxidant such as function time of Vitamin E, vitamin C in the body, can also promote vasodilation, inhibit inflammation from reacting and taking shape with the blood clot at the same time, thus get up and prevent the result of the cardiovascular disease.
Black chocolate relieves fatigue - -Contain high weight in black chocolate " Much phenol " ,Help, improve brain serum plain level, easy getting slow tired disease.
Improve the sexual life - -There is composition benzene second amine alcohol of chocolate even more " LSD of chocolate " Pet name allegedly centre is be happy without being stimulated,it make there aren't people.
Mentioning chocolates, a lot of people are like as well as afraid, love its happy and dense feeling, love it to bring a sense of taste and visual and pleasantly surprised to us constantly Reveal the health truth of chocolate.
A lot of consumer difficult delicious food to support chocolate, afraid of, get fat wipe out, also.
Participating in the conference expert think, fat to have genetic defect one, had eat and activity many kinds of factor disease that interaction lead to the fact such as being insufficient also, it is caused by eating too much and lacking sports that more than 95% are fat.
The expert proposes:
Right amount of supplementary chocolates of 15 minutes, facilitate the recovery after energy supplying with and sport in the movements before sports.
Will not fill out while wanting to enjoy the delicious food, should certainly take exercises more.
It is dark yellow to improve the face
08:22,23 grudzień 2009
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It is dark yellow to improve the face What is face eaten dark yellowly to come to improve?
Qi and blood has rosy cheeks plentifully, full of vigor, low the complexion has no brilliance, it is the insufficient in blood it is the ruddy without being lost in complexion,spleen and stomach the getting finer good digestion and absorption and lasting nutriment very, the organism does not have enough nutriment to nourish, the complexion will become dark and gloomy and unglazed too. Should eat, should invigorate the spleen stomach, invigorate vital energy, enrich the blood and qi and blood pairs of food that mend more.
First, nutrition principle
Qi and blood pair mend, need, recuperate in order to food, medicine enriched the blood, invigorated vital energy to eat slowly, the ones that can't be exceeded are too urgent.
A pair of food mended of qi and blood not only can invigorate vital energy enrich the blood, but also can. The commonly used food is pork, pork tripe, beef, chicken,etc., traditional Chinese medicine often with its looks' compatibility is dangshen, Radix Astragali, Chinese angelica, prepared rhizome of rehmannia,etc.. The medicine recuperates needing to take under the guidance of Chinese medicine.
1.Should eat more and have food that enriched the blood, invigorated vital energy on function.
2.Warm food that should be with flat much feeding habits, with sweet flavor.
3.Should eat more nutritious, flat benefit food apt to digest.
4.Eat some more appropriately contain rich amount ofing " Hematopoietic raw materials " Microelement (iron, copper,etc.) of proteins high-quality, needing , nutriment such as folic acid and vitamin B12.
5.The content of the iron is relatively low in the vegetables, absorb difference, but contain abundant folic acid in fresh green vegetables. Participate in the formulation of the hemoglobin with folic acid, it can cause big cell anaemia that folic acid lacks, can also cause mixing anaemia. So will also eat more vegetables.
Second, suitable food
1.The choices of staple food and beans:
Choosing minerals abundant food such as the round-grained nonglutinous rice, polished glutinous rice, millet, glutinous millet, barley, naked oats,etc. can invigorate vital energy; The result is good that high irons such as purple rice, black rice,etc., mucopolysaccharide abundant food enrich the blood.
2.The choice of the egg milk of meat:
Chicken, goose, beef, rabbit's meat, thiamine such as dog's meat, quail, pheasant, pork tripe, black carp, silver carp, Coilia ectenes, pomfret, octopus, donkey's meat are plain, riboflavin, Nick's sour and abundant food facilitate; Pork, mutton, beef, pork liver, sheep's liver, ox's liver, coagulated pig's blood used as a food, duck's blood, rich food containing albumen, alkaloid such as turtle, pomfret, mandarin fish, yellow croaker, octopus, moray, yellow eel, cuttlefish, sea cucumber, clam's meat, hairtail help to enrich the blood.
3.The choice of the vegetables:
But the food that choice Chinese yam, potato, pumpkin, bamboo shoots, carrot, mushroom, French beans,etc. B clan vitamin are abundant of ones that invigorate vital energy; Black Auricularia, ground ear, day lily, spinach, carrot, lotus root that enrich the blood, send dish food rich in mucopolysaccharide, folic acid, alkaloid.
4.The choice of the fruit:
Microelements abundant food such as the chestnut, lotus seeds, fibert, big date, coconut,etc. have special efficiency in invigorating vital energy; Folic acid, nicotinic acid, flavonoids abundant food such as Sang Shan, litchi, pine nut, longan meat, big date, peanut, cherry, raisins,etc. do benefit to enriching the blood.
Third, diet taboo
Avoid tobacco and wine and pungent to stimulate food, food regard gentle jewelry as, mend, avoid eating anything raw or cold cold cool thing; Eat few roasting, smoking food at the same time.
Father pieces of lasting onlooker
08:52,29 lipiec 2009
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Father pieces of lasting onlooker, I so long as exhibition paper start writing, he take a walk, park, park behind me Stop having a look. In charge of my writing anyhow, father appreciates without exception. He, while not praising me stopping, not
Feel guilty brokenly, say that did not perfect the word while as a child, the eyes were having a look the daughter exceeded oneself now. In fact since his
The responsibility is still to my appreciate and is fond ofing. Until I write, mother criticize word, father think time of the word, we forget
Having written one's own misfortune and common loneliness, it is happy to experience together. Especially to father, no matter
Decorate the studio for me, see I practise handwriting, it is the abundant grass of sweet spring water in his dull and lonely life, moist, he
Heart.
Who comes to teach me how to draw a picture? Father decides to find me the best traditional Chinese Painting teacher: "Look, Chen BanDing
How about it? "
I say: "Certainly it is good, only afraid too high, I can not reach. "
Father has smiled, say I am silly. Because seek instruction from a master and all throw it under the high door.
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Create the chance for the child
09:31, 3 lipiec 2009
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Create the chance for the child The Chinese school for one term completes a course, the school bulletin of Chinese school that myself published lets the students and the Chinese article which the daughter wrote have places to issue. This chance that I create studies Chinese and plays a very big role about the child.
The foreign students of the university city established a Chinese school in 1992, this may be that China left aesthetics and grew one of the Chinese schools initially done. Next year, I am invited to act as a headmaster. I decide to expand the enrollment, add dance class, art class and contest mathematics class. The resources of talent of town of the university are abundant, I have any strength of fee to make uniform no teacher, among them not lack the persons who are studying for the doctor, master's degree. They express that does not mind the remuneration, it is honest and sincere, let me feel that get back to Lei Feng times.
The woman teacher who teaches fine arts has already obtained the art master, has taught the teacher of the dance in the sports universities and colleges have studied the rhythmic gymnastics, " tell a story " The teacher of the class is the doctor who Peking University graduated from. I invite popularity high professor Shi very also, let " contest mathematics ", Professor of he, .
Professor Shi Zhejiang University professor of department of mathematics come American, from the 1978 until " whether mathematics contest enclose" Came into contacts, the 31st International mathematics Olympics was held in Beijing in 1990, he is invited to run the lecture, choose players for the national team of athletes in training of China, and and do to the referee during the contest for this contest proposition. I ask him to teach five mathematics to students of grade seven, only " take care of the thatched cottage " ,He acts joyfully. The class there are 14 children in all when being at most, among them two entered the top 100 in the whole America mathematics match later. The students in this class, did not lack and go science and engineering, science and engineering of California in Harvard, Stamford, Masschusetts later that year. Some go to science and engineering, Colombia, Berkeley, Princeton University of Masschusetts to read to doctors after graduation from university, there are ones that work in the investment bank of Wall Street.
The class has opened a business for more than one month in the summer vacation time of Chinese school, I am busy with getting busy about the ceremony of holding one to complete a course and publishing a school bulletin. The school bulletin may travel aesthstic people run Chinese school school bulletin initially the mainland too.
I assign every class Mr. ask student give school bulletin contribution, the students hear of one's own " works " Can " publish " ,Interest and enthusiasm are very high. You write one, I write one. Parents unwilling one's own children give the impression of weakness, do one's utmost to encourage children to participate in, this can be regarded as the distinct Chinese characteristics too. Student, work in concert by parents, several days, I collect, arrive enough to edit one manuscript of school bulletin. I collect the advertisement everywhere also, gather enough the printing expenses. Then, ask the art instructor to design the front cover, back cover, I have designed all layouts by oneself. The children's misspelled characters and grammar mistakes have kept the former state, can be by reflecting the course of their study truly in this way. Also match the author's photo by each of works, seem very vivid.
The daughter dislikes the handwritten Chinese trouble, type with the Chinese software, with the title of " my dear Chinese school ", have written an article to publish on this school bulletin. The class completes a course by autumn, handwritten another article specially of hers, with the title of " another lovely place ", publish it on the second school bulletin. The Chinese school has created conditions for the child studied literature of Chinese, the school bulletin that I established uses Chinese to play a certain role to the children, have stimulated the daughter to study Chinese enthusiasm too.
Mother has not blamed you
11:15,17 kwiecień 2009
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So virgin favor can't let second son hurt and wronged to receive a little while being refined, but Geng DongLiang can see mother has a little to feel a pain. Dedicated burns the wrinkled one on mother's surface bright in the east " First love " ,Say: "Never I. " And the refined head which feel bright of virgin favor, say: "Mother has not blamed you. " And mother repairs the car make Geng Dong so on as to see, and Geng DongLiang and schoolgirl " talk and laugh " Sample just let mother knock.
Twist a screw with the spanner in the wind in winter in Tong Hui's refined body bow. The car owner refuels to the flywheel, the virgin favor fetches the oil gun refinedly. Play several engine oil above roller chain, take care of car owner say: "Do the flywheel, the oil chain. Don't be oiled on the flywheel, the dust is glued on the oil, do not lubricate instead. " Speaking in this way the virgin favor is being refined but saw one's own second son riding over in one's face, only left and seven or eight meters far from the bicycle, a girl is having a joke with him. Tong HuiXian wants to avoid, but her son has already seen her. The son's sight is approaching over at the uniform velocity and swiftly along the inertia of the car. His face has been lost bluely and greenly when being said except seven or eight meters blue and green. The schoolgirl stops and gets off, say: "Is it angry to hit one. " A good car of schoolgirl, has fetched the inflator by the root of the Chinese parasol tree, but Tong HuiXian takes over. Geng DongLiang has witnessed the course of exerting oneself that mother is bending over. The wind in winter assassinates the chest which enters Geng DongLiang one peal after another peally along the pressure of the inflater, Geng DongLiang walks up, wants to rob the inflator, but been stopped by the schoolgirl. The schoolgirl says with a smile: "You see you are still a person who do heavy manual labour. " The schoolgirl has touched the pocket while speaking, say to Geng DongLiang: "Do you have change? " Virgin favor refined to vie for: "Do not charge the money. " Sell the woman of the newspaper but has opened one's mouth nearby: "One mao for a fetus. " Dedicated the east show, draw out one coin put at vice of tricycle, lose excessive to step up bicycle right away, have an effect, but car and people fall on the ground together. The schoolgirl goes on, say: "Have injured? Have you injured? " Geng Dong has said in bright eye socket loudly on being tearful for a long time: "Has it been over that you have? " The schoolgirl does not know why Geng DongLiang loses the temper, say guiltily: "It is all my fault. "
Geng DongLiang got to the family on the same day evening. Father is watching TV. Father presses cigarettes, say: "Your mother is ill, have not had a meal and gone to bed. " Geng DongLiang pulls out mother's hands from the quilt after entering the bedroom, her hands are red and swollen, having split open in a lot of blood holes, inside the nail is all grease. The hands that Geng DongLiang held mother have been only called " Mother " . Mother takes back hands, say: "Mother is the life of doing heavy manual labour. " Virgin favor refined export know sentence this speak serious. She comes on one's side, say: "Finish college when you, look for a reliable public institution, mother accepts stands. Mother wishes you to spend all attention in the study. " Having one's tongue in one's cheek of mother, Geng DongLiang can recognize. Geng DongLiang says: "I can not do thing unfair to the mother. " Tong HuiXian becomes flexible on the face after listening to this sentence, prop the upper part of the body, Geng DongLiang says: "I go to hold meals for the mother. " The virgin favor touches the son's head refinedly, this small things are said so longly as to grow so tall, look forward to him long everyday, grew up to feel a pain instead inside the heart. Tong HuiXian says: "Mother knows only that will come back for the mother to hold meals. "
The taxi reaches the crossing on the road of Yanan dedicatedly the east is so on as to get off. Mother says abruptly at one's side that he goes to: "Mother, you needn't repair the car again! " Geng DongLiang tows mother out three or four meters, has drawn back the pocket, has shown the dark blue and green back that the money pitched, carry like shallow water black carp of beach, stretch out one's hand, can hold. Dedicated the bright whole face of the east is the tears, say loudly: "You needn't repair the car again! " Tong HuiXian looks at the money, the brilliant rays are put on the face immediately, but just put bright but went down dimly suddenly, say intensely: "Where to come? " Geng DongLiang is extremely anxious to say: "I earn, I earn by myself. " Tong HuiXian admires the face, wipes the tears for the son with hands, wipes the dirtier, wipe dirtily. Tong Hui's refined eye socket is hot, say: "On. "
The driver has followed over, say very unhappily: "Give car fare. "
Geng DongLiang can not come to understand why general manager Li JianGuo will bring him into the small meeting room. The meeting room is very small, and that oval meeting desk seems greatly. Reserve a oval concave cave in the middle of the meeting desk, has put potted flowers such as a row of fragrant thoroughworts and kumquats,etc.. General manager Li JianGuo shuts tightly the door after coming into the meeting room, hints Geng DongLiang sits. JianGuo Li along wind one circle, sit, get Dong Geng go opposite to being on along meeting arc of desk. Li JianGuo puts down the file, draws the Third Five-Year Plan Period brand cigarette of the flat box outside, then draw the lighter. The meeting room is very quiet, very clear sound result that every gesture of Li JianGuo has been followed. The sound of the cigarette cast has sounded on the tabletop, followed by the sound of the lighter.
The atmosphere made very solemnly quickly. Geng DongLiang swallows a mouthful of saliva, looks at President Li. And Lee is always looking at him.
Li JianGuo says: "We have a talk. "
Geng DongLiang becomes nervous quickly. He is remembering. He can not remember clearly these days finally did anything wrong.
Li JianGuo opened the file. Smoke cigarettes. Begin to speak. He has spoken of the prospect of the market of record, market of record at first, and the important meaning of seizing the opportunity. Catches the strategic point of the macroscopical situation as soon as his talk starts, concise and thorough. Then, Li JianGuo opens another side of the file, begins to refer to Geng DongLiang. It is useless for him to act as the bright surface of the east for the first time dedicatedly " You " But has used directly " Geng DongLiang " This intact name. Geng DongLiang listens to President Li and does not think oneself is oneself, but the body, and is living in the talk of President Li at this moment of real Geng DongLiang. He has analyzed Geng DongLiang's sound, especially the characteristic easy to be lyrical with abundant tone of middle pitch district, he analyze height, image makings of DongLiang Geng, easy the audience ' I.e. the market) Possibility to accept, he has referred to the news is scalped, record, CD-audio, tape, portrait right, solo concert, vocal music match, advertisement, step that invested the funds, planned. He has a pleasant talk. His talk is an intact technological analysis and feasible report. President Li has turned over the two sides, he has quoted a succession of data. The vocal music speciality of department of music of normal university resumed enrolling new students to begin since 1987, have recruited 269 students altogether so far. One retires due to illness because 2 are dismissed ungentlemanly conduct on the dining room bench, one dies in traffic accident, it is 265 people to graduate actually. Of these 265 graduates, 4 people plunge into the commercial sea, 2 people change to sing the popular song in Shenzhen, 3 people have become an administrative cadre, 7 people are engaged in singing in speciality, 6 people go abroad, 14 people are engaged in higher education in the universities and colleges of above junior college, a people are imprisoned ' Have already released now) ,A person changes one's profession because laryngeal carcinoma is cut, all of 227 remaining people is engaged in basic music education in the general high school, accounts for 85.67% of the total number. DongLiang Geng unable to check data these, but seen from expression of President Li, undoubtedly it. Can totally be in order to two -figure number after precise as to the decimal pointing. President Li has closed the file, serious and pointing out responsible foring, the situation of both sides is very clear. President Li says: "We hope you don't lose the opportunity. "
To relating to maturity of my myself intelligence
11:50, 9 marzec 2009
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Before
To relating to maturity of my myself intelligence.
In ten months before practising, I am responsible for looking after the badly sick impatient. I think they need the medicine, electromagnetic treatment and speciality to attend to even more, my function is not worth mentioning. However, I am still " charm " which is learnt the traditional meaning ---Carry on the skill with interdynamic psychology with the patient. Shortly after that, I begin to receive the first patient, might as well call her Marcia for the moment. Marcia sees the doctor three times every week. During quite a long time, to the treatment that she carried on, have been making me feel bad all the time. No matter I require what she discusses, she basically says nothing and does not speak. She is unwilling to take the picture the way that I offer even, say more innermost thoughts and feelings, even a word is even unwilling to speak more. In some aspects, our view and view are far from each other. Made great efforts constantly, she has adjusted more or less, I have taken more various treatment way too. However, though I grasp various skills of treating, can't bring greater help to Marcia. Through a section of treatments, she persists in one's evil ways: As before, she always associates with a lot of men indulging. Since several months, she has shown off the abominable behavior growing on and on to me all the time, have passed for one year in this way. One day, she asked me suddenly: "You feel like me people, have no medicine to rescue? "
As to what a question of answering her, I had no psychological preparation at that time, so just asked ambiguously: "Do you seem to be to know, is my your view correctly right? "
She says, she is meaning this. Then next, what should I say? Which kind of charm should be adopted? I should answer: "Why do you want to know my view on you? " "Do you think, what kind of views will I have to you? " Or " Marcia, how think you to be important, the more important thing is how you think about oneself I. " After all, I have not made these shirking the heavy work and choosing the light, superficial answers, only escaping their quibble. Marcia, in as long as one yearing, insist on seeing the doctor three times every week, I have a reason to offer her an honest answer. However, how to answer the question to her, do not have any precedent that can be followed, no professors have told me too, how to tell it to the other side's moral standing and view of the personality accurately in front of patient. In my former medical education, has not accepted this kind of training, other doctors do not have too. As soon as I believe and say the innermost thoughts and feelings, I will be probably passive. I think intensely, feel the heart beats directly pit-a-pat. Finally, I have chosen to take risks. I say: "Marcia, you have come to see the doctor for one year. To tell the truth, our relation is not very smooth, mostly confronting with each other, this makes all of us feel boring, nervous, angry. Even so, I want to tell you, in this year, you can stand inconvenience, connect for one week in one week, see the doctor one month by another, demonstrate very strong willpower. If you whether self-respect regard for oneself, pursue person that grow up, right away unable to accomplish this. You are diligent and enterprising, how can have no medicine to rescue? I can certainly tell you, you do not have no medicine to rescue. You are qualified to receive my respect too. "
Soon, Marcia chooses the most suitable one from dozens of men with ambiguous relation, and and the other side associates conscientiously. They got married later, lived a happy life. She is not any more that girl giving oneself up as hopeless, overly indulging. From behind that talk of ours, she begins to open the heart, except the shortcoming wide more, she will also talk about one's own advantage. Our meaningless face-off has disappeared too. The treatment is smoother and smoother, her condition takes a favorable turn greatly. I have taken the adventurous therapeutic way, not merely make her attitude reverse, begin to cooperate and treat actively, and does not have any injury to her, guarantee therapeutic quality, become turning point of the whole treatment.
Example above, what kind of enlightenment can be brought to us? Should the psychotherapy person speak frankly and sincerely, tell the patient one's own view? Certainly may not be certain. The psychologist should adopt appropriate treatment means according to the patient's actual conditions, and take on the basis of a basic prerequisite: The doctor must treat patients honestly, and should remain the same from beginning to end. As the doctor, I respect and like Marcia, this totally comes from wholeheartedly. Moreover my respect and fondness to her, as to the thing that she have special meaning, know each other for a long time in us especially, under treatment deeper and deeper situation - --The treatment transfers, have nothing to do with my respect and fondness of her, but the relation with doctor
Love and independence
11:49, 9 marzec 2009
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Love and independence (3) In the
Link sound people to all find out, these two kinds of extreme modes of thinking are all unable to solve a realistic problem: In the emotion relation, how do both sides keep independence? Undoubtedly, it is healthy that the personal health depends on the society, the society is healthy to depend on the personal health too. Marriage and family, it is the rear campsite of the mountaineering to can be compared to, the hiker wants to succeed, must improve the rear campsite, guarantee the supply of food and medicines, have a rest in the campsite at any time, supply nutrition, plan to climb the next high mountain. First-class hiker prepare rear time of campsite, no less than actual mountaineering time of spending. The reason lies in: Is the rear campsite stabilized, whether the grain is sufficient, involve whether could accomplish the task of climbing the mountain, and even concern the personal life.
The man's marriage goes wrong, lie in only thinking of mountaineering after marriage, to the rear campsite (marriage) But lack management. They thought the basic necessities of life was complete, in good order in the campsite, for him to use, he does not need to spend the strength, repairs and safeguards the campsite. This kind of " extreme capitalism " The attitude of the type, will certainly let the man's marriage failed. The man came back home, will find, the rear campsite had become the ruins in surprise - --The wife lives in the hospital because of having a nervous breakdown, or there are extramarital relations, or announce to the husband in other ways: She hereafter refuses to continue looking after the campsite.
Woman's marriage goes wrong, often lie in the woman thinks everything is just fine after marriage, think life value realization this right away its. She regards rear campsite as the summit in life. All husband's efforts in the marriage, all creative achievements are not merely unimportant, will only even make her hostile. She requires the husband " Turn respectable " ,Totally put energy on family and marriage. Do it in this way, like " extreme feudalism " The idea, will only let the marriage make to make people suffocate. The husband feels the strong constraint, only want to get rid of the chains as soon as possible, make an escape.
In a certain meaning, the women's liberation movement looks like a flag, guide the way of the ideal marriage for us: The marriage is the system of dividing the work and cooperating in coexisting, couple need to devote and care about, make hard for mutual growth. The basic goal of the ideal marriage, let both sides nourished at the same time, promote the growing up commonly of two drops of soul. Both sides all have responsibility to look after the rear campsite, should all pursue one's own progress, climb summit in life realizing personal value.
Boyhood, I like Treat's religious suite of poems now of American poetess Ann and Bradley. Speak of the conjugal relation, a poem of hers has been especially moved by me, that is that " you and I integrate, I thank all one's life. " But after being adult, I have realized gradually, couple are only the independence, but not " Integrate " ,Could keep one's own sentiment and characteristic, could make marriage life happier. Choose the marriage because of fearing lonelily, is destined not to accomplish the happy marriage. Respect the mutual independence, dare to assume the risk that separated and berefted of one's spouse in surprise too in real love. Successful marriage, can offer better nutriment, and the life journey with brilliant achievement for soul. Couple regard loving as the starting point, make all-out efforts for the growth of the other side, even make sacrifices appropriately, will obtain equal and even greater progress. Couple either party mount summit for life, may raise marriage quality by a large margin, bring emotion and family up to higher level, and then promote the healthy development of the whole society. In other words, the personal growth and growth of society conbine together closely. Certainly, during the process of pursuing and growing up, it is often unavoidable to be lonely and lonely. Poet Ji Bolun has mentioned it in the marriage like this " Lonely intelligence " :
Your combination should keep space,
Let the wind in the paradise wave among you.
In love each other, but don't make the chains of the love,
Between you two bank of soul, let, like ocean surged to become.
Pour the full and mutual wineglass, but can't sip only from a cup,
Share your bread, but can't only enjoy the same bread.
Laugh heartily together, sing and dance festively,
But permit the staying alone of the other side,
String just like the pipa,
Though quiver in the same first music,
But you are you, I am me, separate.
Hand over your soul, but not kept by the other side,
Because only the life hands, could hold your soul.
Stand together, but can't be close very much,
You disappear, the roof beam column in the temple towers each,
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